The life Twenty Somethings

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I’ve been seeing a lot of articles, social media posts and the like about “Things You Must Do In Your Twenties”, “Books to Read in Your Twenties” or “What You Learn About Yourself in Your Twenties.” When I initially began to see them, I read them all through and through. I even re-blogged a few. They seem to act as a guide to life or the unwritten rules that people in their twenties always ponder about. 

One of those articles I most recently encountered I found on Pinterest and it was a list of 30 books one should read in their twenties. Given that it is summer, and I am know longer bogged down with academic textbooks, I’ve been looking for new books to read and skimmed the list. I was only familiar with a few titles on the list, yet that wasn’t what really bothered me. What bothered me…

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The life Twenty Somethings

I’ve been seeing a lot of articles, social media posts and the like about “Things You Must Do In Your Twenties”, “Books to Read in Your Twenties” or “What You Learn About Yourself in Your Twenties.” When I initially began to see them, I read them all through and through. I even re-blogged a few. They seem to act as a guide to life or the unwritten rules that people in their twenties always ponder about. 

One of those articles I most recently encountered I found on Pinterest and it was a list of 30 books one should read in their twenties. Given that it is summer, and I am know longer bogged down with academic textbooks, I’ve been looking for new books to read and skimmed the list. I was only familiar with a few titles on the list, yet that wasn’t what really bothered me. What bothered me was the fact that the author of the article claimed that every single one of these books was going to help me get through my twenties by helping me in a different way. One book would change the way I viewed the world while another would help me finally get over an ex-lover and yet another would help me see why I should no longer be friends with those bitches from high school whom I never really liked anyway. 

Here’s my question: WHY do I need a book for that? Isn’t that what life experiences are for? You travel to another city/state/country and see how other people live. Your world view can change then. OR why does your world view need to be changed? What’s wrong with the way each person as an individual views the world? Isn’t that what give us our individuality that makes us a unique society? 

If I want to get over an ex-partner than the last thing I want to read is a fucking John Green book (the article recommend reading “The Fault In Our Stars”…). When getting over someone is the case, I want to surround myself with people that are going to lift me higher and keep my attitude positive. And who will eat a pint of Ben and Jerry’s with me.

This leads into my second question… why is society so fucking obsessed with everyone in their twenties? Age is just a number. And if you have an age-no matter what is-than you are lucky because you are above ground and living life. When I tell people I’m 21 or that I’m in college the responses I always get are “Oh, what a great age!” Or “I wish I could be that young again.” Like what the hell? Any age is a great age because of life experiences -good or bad- that it took to get you there.  

I’m not really sure where I am going with all of this…this whole idea of your twenties and age and growing up has been kind of brewing for a while and I needed to get it out. I think it’s a damn shame if we as twenty somethings lose our individuality because we become too caught in having one decade of our lives be perfect. I have only been in my twenties for a year, 4 months, and 9 days. I’m 21 years old and I have already learned a lot about being in your twenties…just by life experiences. So here’s my list. This isn’t everything but it’s the things that stick out the most to me in my mind.

My Twenty Something Learning List 

  • Things do not always go as you want them to. And that’s okay. 
  • Though a Cosmo tastes good that night, it will give you a headache the next morning. 
  • College is not easy, in fact it is really fucking hard. And not just school.
  • With that said, getting to know your professors is really important and beneficial. 
  • You go through friends like you go through toilet paper. But the real ones last. 
  • I have really learned to appreciate my parents in different ways and I have learned to love them differently. 
  • Opening up to your mom about personal things is not as scary as it seems. 
  • The time for living with random roommates is college. And then never again. 
  • Boys will say they really like you and then go be with other girls. They even post it on Social Media for you to see. And it is heartbreaking. 
  • Having fun a school night won’t kill you. It will kill you if you do it every school night though. 
  • Turn your fucking phone off. Not vibrate, Do Not Disturb mode but OFF. That Instagram post can wait. 
  • Eating alone at a restaurant is exhilrating. 
  • Looking for part-time jobs sucks big-time. So does being broke. 
  • Your taste in woman/men, fashion, decor, academics, coffee, food…will change. 

I am learning how to be twenty something, but not by the lists society posts on social media. I am learning by day-by-day life experiences. I’m taking it all in one breath at a time. 

 

–MMK 

 

What Your Sushi Order Says About You

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California Roll
“I either have no money or I’m 15 years old…does this come with miso soup?”

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“15 Sake Bombs, Please!”
“I consider myself the life of the party. I arranged this social gathering and we’re here to get fucked up and slam our fists on the table all night long. Let’s keep ‘em coming, k?”

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Unagi
“I like the taste of chicken covered in teriyaki sauce, but I’m slightly edgier than that. It’s also very possible that I’m Filipino or African-American.”

California Roll (Deep fried plus spicy mayo and unagi sauce)
“I’m starving. And poor. But I keep it classy by going for “sushi”.”

Bento Box
“I like options. I generally prefer my food cooked. I kind of miss the days of having my lunch served on a tray. Ahh, #nostalgia.”

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Chicken/Beef/Salmon Teriyaki
“I’m really hungry and I feel that cooked meat will fill me…

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Mexico's Top 10 Contemporary Artists

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Cinco de Mayo (the fifth of May) is a minor holiday in Mexico, but a big reason for Mexicans to celebrate their heritage and cultural pride in the United States. In recognition of the holiday, which commemorates the Mexican army’s defeat of invading French forces in the 1860s, we’ve assembled an exciting mix of contemporary Mexican artists who are becoming world renowned. Rooted in folklore, social issues, and popular culture, these artists — ranging from Gabriel Orozco , who’s been canonized at MoMA , and Damián Ortega , a standout at London’s White Cube , to Julieta Aranda , a rising star who has tricked out the Guggenheim — turn the local into the conceptual for international appetites.

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21 Things You Suddenly Start Wanting In Your Mid-20s

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Once you have officially retired from your Crazy Girl self (or Crazy Guy, as the case may be), you start strangely desiring things that had never really crossed your mind before — or which had always seemed boring. Here, 21 things your mid-20s self wants desperately.

1. A job where you have to wear something nice. It used to be that you would avoid getting “dressed up” during the day at all costs, and would scuffle into class wearing all but a Hefty bag and some Ugg boots, but now you want to have a reason to shop at Banana Republic. You dream of a flawless statement-necklace-and-shift-dress combo.

2. Sangria. The phrase “I hear they have a good sangria here” has crossed your lips on more occasions than you’d like to admit.

3. At least a few hours of precious weekend time to browse home decorating websites, like West Elm…

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Fifty Things Every College Girl Should Know

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New friendships, old friendships, rude boys, cute boys, bad hair day, bad decisions, good grades and a good cry. Little things like that are learning experiences and can truly help you learn who you are.

  1. First Impressions are never forgotten. So make it count.
  2. Go to class and take notes. Nobody likes an unmotivated girl.
  3. Taco Bell at 2 am won’t kill you.
  4. Just because you are away from your parents doesn’t mean the still can’t find things out.
  5. Go easy with the perfume because chances are every other girls is going to have some on too.
  6. Regardless if you know her or not, help her out if she has had to much to drink.
  7. Leggings are pants, but they don’t work for every occasion.
  8. Save you hair bows for functions or mixers. Do not wear them everyday, you are 20 not 5.
  9. If you have to study on the…

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Life Reminders

I am in the process of applying and researching summer internships at art museums across the country. One of my favorite museums is The Getty in Los Angeles and I though how wonderful it would be to intern there for a summer. Much to my dismay, I was terribly disappointed when I discovered that they only offer a “Multicultural Undergraduate Summer Internship.” The issue at hand: I am white.

My skin tone is more white than Olaf in Frozen but cultural background is far from “multi”. This is what kept me from receiving scholarship money when applying to colleges as well. And while I could go on and on about this topic, I just wanted to reiterate what my mother told me on the phone when I called her to whine like a bratty 13-year old.

“It’s like the Rolling Stones song, she said, ‘You Can’t Always Get What You Want‘.” Taken aback by her calm attitude I began to fight but then I realized she’s right. It isn’t worth it. One internship that I may not even have the opportunity to participate in, isn’t worth getting so worked up about. This application process isn’t college. What I am expereinceing is the real world. Which in three semesters time, I am going to have to enter. Better get used to it.

For your listening pleasure…

Cheers,

Mary