The life Twenty Somethings

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I’ve been seeing a lot of articles, social media posts and the like about “Things You Must Do In Your Twenties”, “Books to Read in Your Twenties” or “What You Learn About Yourself in Your Twenties.” When I initially began to see them, I read them all through and through. I even re-blogged a few. They seem to act as a guide to life or the unwritten rules that people in their twenties always ponder about. 

One of those articles I most recently encountered I found on Pinterest and it was a list of 30 books one should read in their twenties. Given that it is summer, and I am know longer bogged down with academic textbooks, I’ve been looking for new books to read and skimmed the list. I was only familiar with a few titles on the list, yet that wasn’t what really bothered me. What bothered me…

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The life Twenty Somethings

I’ve been seeing a lot of articles, social media posts and the like about “Things You Must Do In Your Twenties”, “Books to Read in Your Twenties” or “What You Learn About Yourself in Your Twenties.” When I initially began to see them, I read them all through and through. I even re-blogged a few. They seem to act as a guide to life or the unwritten rules that people in their twenties always ponder about. 

One of those articles I most recently encountered I found on Pinterest and it was a list of 30 books one should read in their twenties. Given that it is summer, and I am know longer bogged down with academic textbooks, I’ve been looking for new books to read and skimmed the list. I was only familiar with a few titles on the list, yet that wasn’t what really bothered me. What bothered me was the fact that the author of the article claimed that every single one of these books was going to help me get through my twenties by helping me in a different way. One book would change the way I viewed the world while another would help me finally get over an ex-lover and yet another would help me see why I should no longer be friends with those bitches from high school whom I never really liked anyway. 

Here’s my question: WHY do I need a book for that? Isn’t that what life experiences are for? You travel to another city/state/country and see how other people live. Your world view can change then. OR why does your world view need to be changed? What’s wrong with the way each person as an individual views the world? Isn’t that what give us our individuality that makes us a unique society? 

If I want to get over an ex-partner than the last thing I want to read is a fucking John Green book (the article recommend reading “The Fault In Our Stars”…). When getting over someone is the case, I want to surround myself with people that are going to lift me higher and keep my attitude positive. And who will eat a pint of Ben and Jerry’s with me.

This leads into my second question… why is society so fucking obsessed with everyone in their twenties? Age is just a number. And if you have an age-no matter what is-than you are lucky because you are above ground and living life. When I tell people I’m 21 or that I’m in college the responses I always get are “Oh, what a great age!” Or “I wish I could be that young again.” Like what the hell? Any age is a great age because of life experiences -good or bad- that it took to get you there.  

I’m not really sure where I am going with all of this…this whole idea of your twenties and age and growing up has been kind of brewing for a while and I needed to get it out. I think it’s a damn shame if we as twenty somethings lose our individuality because we become too caught in having one decade of our lives be perfect. I have only been in my twenties for a year, 4 months, and 9 days. I’m 21 years old and I have already learned a lot about being in your twenties…just by life experiences. So here’s my list. This isn’t everything but it’s the things that stick out the most to me in my mind.

My Twenty Something Learning List 

  • Things do not always go as you want them to. And that’s okay. 
  • Though a Cosmo tastes good that night, it will give you a headache the next morning. 
  • College is not easy, in fact it is really fucking hard. And not just school.
  • With that said, getting to know your professors is really important and beneficial. 
  • You go through friends like you go through toilet paper. But the real ones last. 
  • I have really learned to appreciate my parents in different ways and I have learned to love them differently. 
  • Opening up to your mom about personal things is not as scary as it seems. 
  • The time for living with random roommates is college. And then never again. 
  • Boys will say they really like you and then go be with other girls. They even post it on Social Media for you to see. And it is heartbreaking. 
  • Having fun a school night won’t kill you. It will kill you if you do it every school night though. 
  • Turn your fucking phone off. Not vibrate, Do Not Disturb mode but OFF. That Instagram post can wait. 
  • Eating alone at a restaurant is exhilrating. 
  • Looking for part-time jobs sucks big-time. So does being broke. 
  • Your taste in woman/men, fashion, decor, academics, coffee, food…will change. 

I am learning how to be twenty something, but not by the lists society posts on social media. I am learning by day-by-day life experiences. I’m taking it all in one breath at a time. 

 

–MMK 

 

Fifty Things Every College Girl Should Know

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New friendships, old friendships, rude boys, cute boys, bad hair day, bad decisions, good grades and a good cry. Little things like that are learning experiences and can truly help you learn who you are.

  1. First Impressions are never forgotten. So make it count.
  2. Go to class and take notes. Nobody likes an unmotivated girl.
  3. Taco Bell at 2 am won’t kill you.
  4. Just because you are away from your parents doesn’t mean the still can’t find things out.
  5. Go easy with the perfume because chances are every other girls is going to have some on too.
  6. Regardless if you know her or not, help her out if she has had to much to drink.
  7. Leggings are pants, but they don’t work for every occasion.
  8. Save you hair bows for functions or mixers. Do not wear them everyday, you are 20 not 5.
  9. If you have to study on the…

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Life Reminders

I am in the process of applying and researching summer internships at art museums across the country. One of my favorite museums is The Getty in Los Angeles and I though how wonderful it would be to intern there for a summer. Much to my dismay, I was terribly disappointed when I discovered that they only offer a “Multicultural Undergraduate Summer Internship.” The issue at hand: I am white.

My skin tone is more white than Olaf in Frozen but cultural background is far from “multi”. This is what kept me from receiving scholarship money when applying to colleges as well. And while I could go on and on about this topic, I just wanted to reiterate what my mother told me on the phone when I called her to whine like a bratty 13-year old.

“It’s like the Rolling Stones song, she said, ‘You Can’t Always Get What You Want‘.” Taken aback by her calm attitude I began to fight but then I realized she’s right. It isn’t worth it. One internship that I may not even have the opportunity to participate in, isn’t worth getting so worked up about. This application process isn’t college. What I am expereinceing is the real world. Which in three semesters time, I am going to have to enter. Better get used to it.

For your listening pleasure…

Cheers,

Mary

Plan A-

So here I am sitting on my Southwest flight eating really stale pretzels headed back to school. I’m getting really dirty looks from the lady next to me because I put my water bottle in the seat between us. But everyone knows that when there is an empty seat, it’s storage for the extra crap you can’t fit in the tiny seat front pocket.  Also, the kid in front of me won’t stop shaking the seat. What is normally a very short and easy flight, is about to be much too long.

As I sit here, listening to music and tweeting about my in-flight adventures-all thanks to the overpriced Southwest Wifi-I’m reflecting back on the month I spent at home. A lot happened.

I saw high beloved high school become State Champions in football. I visited the Huntington Library in Pasadena with my mom. My family got together to celebrate a milestone birthday for my grandma–80!!. And I got to visit the beach to celebrate another birthday with some of my best friends. It was all wonderful and relaxing-it was just what I needed.

But…the biggest thing that happened was I decided to change my major. I know big deal, college students change their major all the time and often more than once. However, this was a big deal for me. I went to the University of Missouri for many reasons but the main and most important reason is that their school of journalism is the best in the country and world renowned. But I didn’t get in. Twice I didn’t get in. And it was absolutely devastating.

Being a journalist has been my dream since I did my first interview for Kevin McCarthy for my high school newspaper.  And attending the Missouri School of Journalism was apart of that dream. I visited the school in February of my junior year of high school and all other plans to be a Duck at the University of Oregon went out the window (Sorry Mom, Grandma, and Grandpa…). Mizzou was going to be my school. And I was going to graduate with a degree in journalism and a minor in Political Science and be a political reporter.

But now here I am, heading into the Spring semester of my junior and I have yet to post that screen grab of my acceptance email to the J-school to various social media sites.  I was so ashamed of myself for not getting into the j-school. I kept asking myself what I did wrong; it felt as I had no future left. There were a lot of tears, sorrow, and sadness because I felt as if everything I had worked for since the day I joined the student paper in high school were just flushed down a giant toilet.

I thought about not coming back to Mizzou at all. I looked into transferring to Fresno State because they could let me in for Fall 2014 and I could still major in journalism there.  But the more I thought about it, the more I realized it just wasn’t the best choice for me. I’d have to take a semester off of school, try to become a California resident again…the list really just goes on. Plus, who really wants to move to Fresno? It’s like Bakersfield, but hotter.

In the absence of my acceptance to the School of Journalism, I have decided to major in Art History. A big change? It’s all relative really. I realized how much I enjoyed Art History the same time I realized how much I disliked Political Science. It’s funny how things work out that way. I am excited to pursue this new major. I’ve come to really enjoy the classes and the topics in which they encounter. This will be new for me. I’m still sad about the journalism school. I might go to grad school for it one day, maybe at Cal Berkeley or I may even give Mizzou a try again. But for now, I honestly just want to get my degree and be done with school. And I still can minor in journalism, so in the end it all works out.

John F. Kennedy once said “Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.” I’ve always been extremely wary of changes. I’m stubborn and it’s hard for me to adapt to new things. But I believe that Kennedy is right and the last thing I want is to miss my future. Despite what I thought at the end of the fall semester, I know now that great opportunities are ahead. And I can’t wait to meet them with full force.

Cheers,

Mary

Nelson Mandela

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This is my favortie quote by Nelson Mandela. I have always believed that education is a powerful tool when it comes to being a force for change. If you aren’t educated and knowledgable on the issues that plague our world, then how can you be an advocate for the greater good? I am very sad about Mandela’s passing. I would have loved to have had the chance to meet him. It would have been wonderful to listen to him share his stories and learn what kept him motivated to keep fighting for what he thought was right and just.

There have been many great leaders in the past century but I can think of few that showed as much passion and courage as Mandela. 

May his soul rest in peace. 

 

10 Reasons Why You Should Marry A Sorority Woman (A Rebuttal)

Diaries of an Undergrad

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** This article is a rebuttal to an article called “The Reasons Why You Never Want To Marry A Sorority Girl.” (In case you’d like to read it) Its intentions are not to offend non-affiliated women, but to vouch for the women that are. The chosen pictures of famous sorority women are not meant to represent their respective points either. They were chosen at random as I believe them to be influential and productive members of our society. This article is meant to be viewed light-heartedly. Thank you!

I get it — sorority girls sometimes get a bad rep from what the world outside of Greek perceives us to be like. I’m here to clear those stereotypes up. As a member of a Panhellenic organization, I can vouch for my sisters and the sorority members in my community by saying that we will not only make great wives…

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